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…so many different life experiences in my 29 years and 7 months. All of them have taught me something even the ones I don’t remember and even if only subconsciously. That’s how life experiences and memories good and bad work.

There are however 10 key experiences that have actually helped me grow the most in my life.

If anyone is interested I will make separate posts going into a bit more background on these and the lessons I’ve learned, but this is just a daily prompt so I did not want to make this post too long. Leave a comment if you want a separate post on any of these… Though I might do separate posts anyway just to give them the space they deserve as they were all profound experiences.

10.

Loosing my grandpa and grandma and realizing they were human different times but both impacted me in the same way.

9.

Starting to heal from trauma from being abandond by or sent away from birth family (dad, mom, aunts, siblings, grabdparents, cousins, adoptive dad too)

8.

Sexual abuse from male family members, overcoming it, and standing up for the truth while learning  to forgive myself for what was never my fault.

7.

Birth/adoption of all my siblings and my adoption specifically my adoption day and telling my dad I love him for the first time

6.

Graduations with honors (high school and colleges)

5.

Internships and work experiences (foster club, dunkin, salvation atmy, planned parenthood).

4.

Growing from my adoptive parents divorce and the trauma it brought.

3.

Learning to feel my emotions, the flood of flashbacks, associated physical symptoms and overcoming them.

2.

Living as an adult in various living situations, with parents, roomate with aunt, parents again, adult group home, parents again, alone, mom now, and learning all i learned from the situations that came up.

1.

Recovering from my self destructive behaviors and the troubles they brought, from the self harm and suicide attempts to risky sex and online dating practices, to not putting self care first and not setting up boundsries with people who have caused me trauma.

3 Bonus experiences that I forgot to include in the list!

These experiences are significant I’ve just been through so much that they slipped my mind until I was entering hashtags.

1.

Finding myself as an individual in the LGBTQIA+ community and realizing that there are others who feel the same way I feel about so many things like their bodies, their attractions to others, and their understanding of who they are. People with all different life experiences aside from our similar existence as LGBTQIA+ individuals.

2.

Accepting my life as an individual with incurable mental health, physical health, and developmental disabilities, accepting that I will always need my treatments and medicine to stay alive, and accepting that just because I have disabilities it does not mean I have to have a lesser quality of life.

3.

Allowing love to come into my life and creating a forever family made of different people in my bio and adoptive family, outside friends, and pets. Not everyone in my bio or adoptive family is safe for me to have around, but the ones that are are here to stay and we support each other with unconditional love. Also realizing that I am ok if my family doesn’t include a romantic partner (at least for right now) and accepting that I do not wish to bring my own kids into this world (at 30 in 2 months I only have hopefully a decade left to wordy about it).